Time schedule of your style seeking process. Step-by-step:

I've tried to figure out my style myself for about 2 years - I mean before then I  wasn't giving it a thought;). Of course I was managing before and I wouldn't say it was ugly;). You can have a look at the pictures. But I often felt overdressed or shy as if I was trying too hard to impress but didn't want people to admit me. A part of psychology, of course. But with time I realized that I was doing it coz what I wore didn't represent the real me. I liked some color combo in vogue/on the net and was hunting the similar color item. Once wearing it - shy.... Hunting the next. And yep, I thought I was a summer... Oh my!
All that gave me a depression and go get out of it I wanted to understand this riddle.
I ended up taking a course of a practicing stylist where I happily got the systemized knowledge and found out how styling works:
Step 1. Fixing your clothes' piece lengths.
And necklines.
Get rid of everything that is not yours. (Would give you extra bulky/disproportions, etc)
Step 2. Getting to know what your siluett is - broken, OR the whole and sculptured, OR soft and textured OR long&soft and puffed-armed and so on.
These two steps are done when you know your style archetype. Plus your way of doing your make-up
Step 3. Fixing the colors. This will also define the colors of your make-up btw.
Step 4. Finding your style direction (D, C, S/N, R)
Getting rid of all clothing that is not in your style.
Step 5. Fixing your hair - hair style and hair color
Step 6. Making order in your wardrobe capsule wise.
Step 7. For advanced. Getting a style iconed.

Now, how to do it yourself. Try, try, try tryons. Spend a lot of time on that. Even if not buying;). Go on a Facebook groups of Kibbe, read his book, try to find out your archetype. in general takes about 2 years. Analyze, analyze, analyze: what do you like in the clothing pieces, why this attracts you and that isn't, what is your worst, etc. Time again. Then, read, watch, etc.the fashion history and there you belong. Unfortunatelly there are mostly romantic-dramatics are in public, Kibbe-knowledgable would agree with me on that and admit that's why he himself studyed them so well in Hollywood and created a subcategories, TR and SD. So, if you can't find your style icon, it is because it is well hidden and not that public;)
Next time we'll talk about how much it costs;)